In a shocking development, the NCAA feels shame.

But, damn, look what it took to get there.

Earlier this summer, Canisius College cross-country runner Emily Scheck received a text message from her mother that turned her life upside down.

Her mother had found a picture of Sheck and the girl she was dating, and she was horrified by it. Her mother told her that she was disgusting, and that she had to make a choice: come home and get therapy for her same-sex attraction, or be cut out of their lives forever. Sheck let her mother rant, not knowing what to do.

“I really didn’t know how someone should respond to that,” Scheck told Outsports. Yet she knew she didn’t want to have anything to do with some kind of conversion therapy, and she wanted to stay at Canisius preparing with her cross-country team for the season ahead.

Not long after that she came home to a shocker: her car’s license plates had been removed, and her car was full of her childhood belongings from home — awards, plaques, stuffed animals. She had bought her own car, but because her parents were paying for the insurance they had rescinded the payments, her father had driven to Buffalo from their home near Rochester, N.Y., and taken the license plates. He had also removed all of her belongings from their home and stuffed them in her car.

With that came a message that she was never to speak to them or her siblings again.

Suddenly Scheck was left alone, without a family and without support. She had $20 to her name and was getting paid by her jobs every two weeks — she works both at the local Wegmans and has a work-study job on campus, just to stay alive.

She didn’t have a meal plan to rely on for food, and her parents had stuck her with a Discover Card bill of items the family had purchased on a recent vacation.

Her roommate set up a gofundme page to help Scheck get through her situation and that led to the inevitable knee-jerk reaction from the school and the NCAA.

That’s when someone at the school or the NCAA — Scheck isn’t quite sure — took notice. She said she was contacted by an NCAA compliance officer at Canisius College and told she had two options, per his communication with the NCAA: Return every penny and maintain her NCAA eligibility, or keep the money and leave the cross-country team.

Scheck, being a rational human being who realized that eating was more important than playing sports, chose door number two.

This, of course, is both unnecessarily cruel and borderline insane.  We’re talking about a female cross-country runner at a small school.  There are no commercial interests involved here, just concerned people trying to help someone whose life was turned upside down.

Then, again, amateurism.  At least until the bad press started.  Suddenly, there was fine print to be found.

Canisius College received clarification from the NCAA that Emily Scheck can retain her eligibility and continue to receive GoFundMe donations that assist her with living and educational expenses. The NCAA staff worked cooperatively with Canisius College to provide guidance that the fundraiser can continue, with school monitoring. NCAA rules allow a school to assist a student-athlete with a fundraiser after a significant life event occurs.

Canisius and the NCAA will continue to work together in support of Emily. She is a member of the Canisius family and we will to do whatever we can to assist her.

I’m glad shame worked in Scheck’s case, but these are awful people and we should never lose sight of that.

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36 responses to “In a shocking development, the NCAA feels shame.

  1. Muttley

    I’m setting up a GoFckYrslf page for the NCAA.

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    • Muttley

      Seriously, what did these people ever do to gain ownership of these student-athletes, control of their personal lives, the right to make them endorse products and collect for that, and television, and a chunk of the gate, all while keeping them barefoot and pregnant?

      Do they pay Saban and Meyer and Smart to coach (and Butch not to coach)? Did they build the stadiums? Own the land? Compose “Sandstorm”? Father an Uga?

      Where were they in 1892, and why does everyone owe them money?

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      • ATL Dawg

        “Do they pay Saban and Meyer and Smart to coach (and Butch not to coach)? Did they build the stadiums? Own the land?”

        Yes, yes, and yes.

        The NCAA is the schools.

        The rules that are in place and the enforcement of those rules are what the majority of the schools want.

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        • Muttley

          I’d say they’re much closer to being employees of the schools, or agents of the schools. I don’t agree at all that they own land or that coaches’ salaries come from their pockets. The states and the boosters would have something to add to those discussions.

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          • ATL Dawg

            Ok, so the NCAA isn’t the schools. It’s an extension of the schools. Or an agent of the schools. That’s some nice hair splitting.

            Regardless of the label we put on it, the point remains. The NCAA is the way it is because the schools want it that way.

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            • Muttley

              Pointing out that it’s a completely different thing isn’t hair-splitting. It’s total contradiction.

              The NCAA is an agency that protects and serves its own financial interests without bringing much of anything else to the party. That was my point.

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              • ATL Dawg

                It’s not a completely different thing. That’s the point.

                I know it’s uncomfortable to come to the realization that the schools are the problem. I get it.

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    • Anonymous

      That is an excellent idea for a website specifically designed to raise funds for filing lawsuits against people.

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  2. mwo

    Her parents must really be pieces of work.

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  3. Russ

    Her parents work for the NCAA? I can’t imagine what parent does that to their kid.

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    • mwo

      Me either, I’m 57, conservative, and old school as you get but I can’t think of anything my girls could to make me act that way.

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      • Erk's Forehead

        mwo: I’m 57, liberal, as old school (I imagine) as you, and I couldn’t agree with you more. Good on you. Being a loving parent is apparently the “choice” that neither Ms. Scheck’s hypocritical mother or father could make. Me? I’m gonna try to find her go fund me page … Exactly the kind of courage and character I’d be proud of in a daughter.

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  4. R Joyner

    As a Christian I do not approve of her lifestyle choice (and it IS a choice). However, I equally can not fathom how a parent can treat their child this way. A parent’s love should be unconditional, as is God’s. A parent (or God) does not have to agree with someone’s actions in order to love them (these parents should open their bibles and read the story of the prodigal son). The old cliche applies here “hate the sin but love the sinner”….we are all sinners Romans 3:23.

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    • It’s no more of a choice than someone dating/marrying the opposite sex. So I guess she could choose to hide who she is and date/marry the opposite sex and be miserable, but it wouldn’t change who she actually is inside.

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    • 202dawg

      That’s nice. Tell it to all the kids who ended their lives because the choice was so obvious.

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    • Josh

      Can you choose who you are attracted to? I can’t. When I realized there is no way I could choose to be attracted to men, it made me realize the reverse is true.

      Only someone who is attracted to men (or women, for females) and chooses to repress that would come up with the concept that it is a choice.

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    • South FL Dawg

      I had a gay neighbor who tried to make this “choice” to be straight. He would go to a Christian church and make friends there that would try to help him. He would stop hanging out with gay friends. He’d also start talking to girls at work and asking me for advice, so I knew when he was going through one of these phases. I’m a straight gal.

      Thing is after several months of this he would start seeing men again. That he couldn’t stick to it wasn’t surprising to me because he had told me early on when we became friends that he’d known he was gay since he was a little boy. So I don’t think this is a choice at all; in fact he tried to choose to be straight and it didn’t work. To me, he was born gay. I don’t consider it a sin.

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    • Anonymous

      When did you choose to be straight? Since it is a choice, it must be as easy as choosing between the chicken and the pasta on a flight. Or maybe as easy as a coin-flip… That must explain all the suicides committed by the LGBTQ community. They get a little bit sad and flip a coin of about hanging themselves.

      Sorry. I was born straight. I’ve known since I was a little kid. There is nothing that would get me attracted to hairy man-ass.

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    • S

      It’s not a choice, you fucking idiot. And fundamentalists hardly ever “hate the sun but love the sinner” – they’re a bunch of narrow-minded pricks who hate the “sinner” instead. They’re a blight on society.

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    • Sam Johnson

      You should read the scientific literature on sexual orientation. There is little doubt that this an ascriptive characteristic as much as eye color or height. I know the Bible condemns homosexuality, but the Bible also condones slavery. With better science and knowledge, we can update our values from those held by illiterate animal herders 2000 years ago.

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  5. Scott

    Even more than the NCAA, these parents are total assholes

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  6. Doug

    Not that my picture’s going to show up on anyone’s Catholic of the Month board anytime soon, but how that family can ever talk about “Christian love” or “family values” ever again is beyond me.

    And then of course the thuddingly obtuse NCAA has to come in and compound one act of gratuitous cruelty with another. They remind me of the remark Churchill once made about Americans—they “can always be trusted to do the right thing, once all other possibilities have been exhausted.”

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  7. dawgxian

    I’ve gotten to the point where I hold off on outrage when I see a story like this because I remember what we were initially told about Matthew Sheppard, Trayvon Martin, and Michael Brown and what now know. We have not heard the parents’ side of the story. I can see both sides on this issue. The daughter has the right to live as she sees fit. The parents have the right to use their assets as they see fit. She is an adult and ought to be able to survive on her own. A woke, educated, person like her should not be dependent upon a couple of Catholic bigots. On the other hand, I don’t think it’s right to cut her off all of a sudden and create a contest of wills nor tell her not to talk to the family (assuming she’s not lying). If one of my kids came out, I would not cut them off. They and their partners would be welcome in my house. I would even let them stay with me if they were in financial trouble though with rules. I also wonder what she meant by “conversion therapy”. I’ve read references to shock treatment and bizarre activities, but the guys I’ve known that sought treatment simply met with a licensed counselor and some other men that were struggling with it. This was decades ago and they appear to doing fine. One is married to woman. Others, as best as I can tell, are happily single. Perhaps, there’s more to us than our sexual attractions

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    • Ben

      What the actual hell do Trayvon Martin, Matthew Shepherd, or Michael Brown have to do with any of this? Or did you just need to let us know where you stood without actually saying it?

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      • dawgxian

        Shepard- We were told he was killed because he was gay. Now, we know it was a drug deal gone bad and he was in a sexual relationship with one of his killers. Martin- we were told Zimmerman proflied him to 911 because was black by NBC and mumbled racist slurs by CNN. Now, we know NBC redacted the 911 transscript to make it sound that way and CNN has retracted their statement. Brown- were told he said “hands up don’t shoot” and that he was shot in back. Now, we know both of those are false and that he robbed a convenience store and hit a cop. Right now, we are told these parents abruptly sabotage their daughter’s life and cut her out of the family because she is gay. Will this story also change as new facts come to light?

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        • Greg63

          “Consider the growing popularity of the conspiracy theories surrounding Shepard’s murder. Many center on the allegations made in the 2014 book by Steven Jimenez, which argues the murder was the result of a drug deal gone bad. Adherents of this belief maintain Shepard died because of his involvement in methamphetamine, not because his killers violently attacked someone different than themselves.

          To be clear, this argument comes despite the fact that the only Shepard killer to stand trial didn’t use drug dealing as a defense. (In fact, his lawyers attempted to use a gay panic defense.) It also ignores the opinions of those who investigated the case, like current Albany County Sheriff Dave O’Malley, who said Jimenez’s book should have been titled “Book of Lies.”

          “Nothing was in the investigation whatsoever that indicated that Matt was in any way involved in the use or distribution of methamphetamine or any other drugs,” O’Malley told the Star-Tribune last month. “There’s nothing that was in the investigation that indicated that McKinney and Henderson were under the influence of anything other than a little bit of beer the night that they killed Matt. And so, for the conspiracy theorists out there, I suppose it’s good reading. To me, it was ridiculous.”

          Just STOP!

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