“I’d rather deal with the heat than with football schedules.”

Ah, the social niceties and the South

For Younker, an Alabama fan like her fiance, the answer was simple: Wed Brandon Cutts on June 20, 2015, before football begins. That way, guests won’t have to decide whether to attend a game or the wedding; she won’t have to miss a game to get married; and a student dressed as Big Al — who will appear at a wedding in his Crimson Jersey for a $400 fee — can appear at the wedding for photos.

And, as a bonus, Younker won’t have to cope with the in-season passions of her mom’s family, who are Tennessee fans; her dad’s family, which pulls for South Carolina; and her brother, who attends Auburn.

Here’s the story of a wedding planner who earned her stripes.

Professional wedding planner Kavonda L. Rogers of Montgomery said “World War III” nearly broke out a few years ago when a bride settled on a wedding date not realizing it was the same day as the South’s oldest football rivalry game, Auburn-Georgia.

“It was intense. People were saying, ‘No, you have to move the wedding. You can’t do this,'” said Rogers.

The solution: Rogers arranged for a big-screen television to be turned on in a room right off the reception area. At game time, most of the men left the reception to huddle around the TV.

Someone in Montgomery who’s blissfully ignorant of the Georgia-Auburn game?  Sacrilege.

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28 responses to ““I’d rather deal with the heat than with football schedules.”

  1. I would like to know if it was for the 45-7 beat down or the 38-0 whitewashing. Those two years were pure happiness. All was right in the world.

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  2. Ben

    Man, there are days that I wish I was blissfully ignorant of everything having to do with college football.

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  3. AusDawg85

    Ban Game Marriages!

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  4. 3rdandGrantham

    The truly smart ones have their wedding during the fall anyway and save a lot of money in the process. Intelligence and an open-minded, independent bride, who firmly understands that the world doesn’t revolve around her, are key to making it work out well in their favor.

    Many customary wedding reception spots will offer unreal discounts during fall weekends due to this, particularly high end hotels and such. The same applies to photographers and the like. A couple I know got married last fall, saved about 40% compared to a spring/summer wedding, and roughly 1/3rd of invitees didn’t attend due to various “conflicts.” They shrugged their shoulders at those who didn’t truly care about attending anyway yet gladly accepted their gifts, and when it was all said and done ended up saving about 15k, which they happily put towards a down payment on their new home.

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  5. Charles

    This article couldn’t be more apropos, because I’ve been having a discussion with some friends about the South and the decline of “manners.” Not “manners” in the rules-of-etiquette sense, but more along the lines of “try not to be hopelessly self absorbed in all things.”

    Having spent over half-a-year splitting my time between Chicago and Birmingham, it’s occurred to me that it might be time to retire the old axiom that “southerners have better manners.” For me, the linked article is Exhibit Y. Even when comparing Birmingham to Chicago, I still see a lot of bad behavior – from snide confrontations over football to rude driving to even neglecting the little things that used to be taken for granted (e.g. holding doors open for people who have their hands full).

    3rd&G is absolutely right. But, my take is this: just STFU and go support your friends/family on one of the most important days of their lives. Seriously. The rest is just trivia.

    I don’t know when my people fell into abject self absorption. I guess it’s just the culture in general.

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  6. My buddy got married a few years back in Sept b/c it was UGA’s off week. This boggles my mind. He’s a big fan- does he think they’ll have the same off wk every yr? What about when the wife wants to take a trip to celebrate their Anniversay Weeknd?!? What about other games that directly affect UGA on that weekend?
    My anniversay is June 21st. Free & clear…

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    • Bulldog Joe

      My wife and I agree that Athens is a fine place to celebrate our anniversary weekend!

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    • PTC DAWG

      My Wife and I hit a road every 3-4 years or so for our anniversary…good times.

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    • Russ

      Bingo! July 17th is open every year, no matter how many teams they add to the playoffs!

      To me, if you’re planning on spending your life with someone, cooperation goes a long way. If one party wants to avoid a certain time, then the other party should try to accommodate. Simple as that.

      We’re not talking about an unplanned event here. It is a willful act to place a wedding on a fall weekend, when there is 75% of the calendar remaining open.

      Reminds me of the story of the woman that got married on the weekend of the Alabama-Tennessee game, knowing her parents were both huge Bama fans. There were obviously some family dynamics being played out there. It wasn’t that the third Saturday in October was the only time available.

      Of course, one of my best friends got married on Labor Day when we played UCLA between the hedges. It was in Virginia, to boot. He made sure I came by making me his best man. Bastard! 🙂

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  7. I am currently in this predicament myself. Fiancé wants a wedding this fall.

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    • PTC DAWG

      Happy Wife, happy life.

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    • Russ

      Mid-December is open.

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      • Beer Money

        Mid-December all the way until late August. Why do people just not understand this? It’s not like you are saying “we cannot get married during the NBA season.”

        And I agree. Give in to this and you may not be attending any more football games (or even getting to watch them for that matter) as your schedule will be set for you.

        As long as you don’t have some unreasonable request, the bride should not make an unreasonable one of you if it means that much to you. If you cannot find a compromise, then find a new woman. You’ll be much happier in the long run.

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    • Debby Balcer

      She waited rather late to plan it venues are booked. December’s weddings are nice but most places book at least six months I. Advance.

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    • Keese

      If we did it would be very small and venue not a problem. Maybe December. The thing working in my favor is other Dawg fans that she wants attending

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    • AusDawg85

      Bachelorhood welcomes you back!

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  8. My aunt, a UGA grad, got married on the day of the ’03 UT game. I was super pissed but I went because it’s family/friends and I was asked to be in it. I didn’t bring it up or hold a grudge. I just think it was stupid knowing how many of us were/are season ticket holders. I mean…. his family is filled with UT folks. Maybe I’m selfish but it’s just as selfish to have your wedding during a game that many at the wedding wanted to be at or at least watching. They could have waited a week for the Charleston southern game. Funny thing is how they’re always asking for tickets now. Sure…I’ve got you some tickets…for Charleston southern, Troy, etc. Lol! No grudge, they just aren’t the first I call when I have extras for the good games.

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  9. I skipped a friend’s wedding to go to the 2002 auburn game. I only felt marginally bad, though, since it was a thrown together, last minute wedding and I’d already had plans. They only lasted a couple years. He’s a big Dawg fan and I know he let here dictate things so it was already doomed.

    Nah..that bitch did it to show who wore the pants and to spite his friends so I really don’t feel bad. I can’t support something so big when it wasn’t built to last. I probably would have gone had I felt like it was.

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  10. Moe Pritchett

    11 years ago my daughter had the nerve to get knocked up and plan a hurry up shotgun wedding for Sept 13th…my son was playing at Appalachian State at the time….yup, we went for the bye week and nailed it. My son in law only limps a little bit; the bird shot dug out of his knee quite nicely.

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  11. Mayor

    When we got engaged my wife and I actually got out the master schedule to be certain no games conflicted with our wedding date. She was the one that thought of that, bless her.

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  12. Don’t overlook the first Saturday in December either.

    2012 I spend first half of the seccg at one.

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